Don’t Compare yourself to others

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.

Oprah Winfrey

Don’t Compare yourself to others . In social media age , it is tempting to beat yourself up if your friends are getting married , having kids and living a life of luxury.

Don’t compare your life to others…… There’s no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it’s their time. —-Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam.

Research suggest that comparing yourself to others are pointless. That’s because , from the outside , people can seem a lot happier and less troubled than they really are.

The death of contentment is comparison to others.

We each live our own lives. By comparing yourself to others , the only thing you are going to do is hurt yourself.

Personality Begins when Comparison leaves off . Be Unique , Be Proud , Be Memorable , Be Confident.

Shannon L. Alder

How to deal with Toxic People

Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head . Raise the rent and kick them out.

Robert Tew ( Football Player )

Toxic people are dangerous. They are dangerous to our self-esteem and inner peace.

Part of growing up is learning how to cut ties with toxic people-no matter who they are.

No relationship is worth destroying and diminishing the light that shines within us.Know how to walk away when the time is right.

There is not always two sides of story. Sometimes , there is only one. Know your story and make yourself the hero of it by accepting nothing less than the treatment you deserve in this life.

Keep Others In Suspended Terror , Cultivate An Air Of Unpredictability

Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control.

Turn the tables. Be deliberately unpredictable.

Behavior that seems to have no consistency on purpose will keep them off balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves.

Taken to an extreme , this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.

Resource : The 48 laws of Power.

Obstacles to Greatness

Bigger the ambition , greater will be the issues .

when you want to walk , the issues are few. When you choose to run a marathon , obviously there are more issues to deal with.

When you choose to merely exist , you face lesser issues . When you choose to live worthy of your potential , then you have to solve larger issues.

There has to be a difference between a history reader and history creator.

Grow Big By Thinking Big

  1. Don’t sell yourself short. Conquer the crime of self- deprecation. Concentrate on your assets. You are better than you think you are.
  2. Stretch your vision. See what can be, not just what is. Practice adding value to things , to people and to yourself.
  3. Think above trivial things. Focus your attention on big objectives. Before getting involved in a petty matter , ask yourself.

“is it really important?”

—- The Magic of Thinking Big

Concentrate Your Forces

Life’s about progress , we can either move forward and relentlessly improve or be consumed and surpassed by horde which stands in wait behind us.

Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point.

You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper , than by flitting from one shallow mine to another – intensity defeats extensity every time.

When looking for sources of power to elevate you , find the one key patron , the fat cow who will give you milk for a long time to come.

Resource : The 48 law of power.

You are Average of Five People You Spend the Most Time With

Show me your friends , I will tell you what you are..

vladimir lenin.

The people you spend the most time with shape who you are. They affect to which attitudes and behavior you are regularly exposed. Eventually you start to think like they think and behave like they behave.

According to Research of social psychologist of Harvard determine as much as 95% of success or failure in life depends on people of your life.

Make no mistake with it. You are judged by the company you keep. How we think is directly affected by the group we’re in .

Be sure you’re in the flock that thinks right.