Boundaries aren’t about trying to control others or make them change.
Boundaries are an important form of self care ; you set and enforce boundaries for your own well-being.
Boundaries allow you to prioritize yourself and not overcommit or sign-up for things you can’t or don’t want to do.
Boundaries are necessary in friends and family , for their healthy connection with us. Overcommit and being their every time for everything may lead you to end your friendship or relationship.
So prioritize your friendship and family connection and set boundaries and live healthy connection.
Actively learn to pay attention and demonstrate to others that you truly value their opinions and what they have to say…
Choose active listening , open-ended question , with supporting body language and remove any distractions that impede with your ability to listen.
Active listening habits pay a lot to your standard of life , Sometimes any conversation or just one sentence say a huge meaning but that time we have to listen actively to understand it.
Listen Actively …..Think on It …..
If you want to grow , if you want to become better, read. Read anything you can get your hands on. READ whenever you have a spare time.
Having daily reading practice is incredibly powerful.
Through books we get to learn the things other people have spent their whole lives learnings. And we can learnt it in a matter of hours.
Book provides access to how other people think, how they’ve achieved great things and provides information on how we too can experience success in the areas that matters most.
Reading is essential for those who seek to rise above the ordinary.Jim Rohn
Nothing is more powerful than the treasure of knowledge and the way to acquire this treasure is to read as much as you can.
Research has proved that acquiring new knowledge satisfies an individual’s thirst for competence , which makes them eventually happier.
You must develop the habit of reading books that will help you to acquire new skills and as well as to polish your existing skills.
The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.
Love yourself first and everything else falls in line . You have to really love yourself to get anything done in this world.
In other words , show some self compassion.
Scientist say it can make you more successful because you’re learning from your missteps , instead of just berating yourself for them.
One self compassion exercise involves treating yourself as you are best person.
Invent your world ; Surround yourself with people , color , sound and work that nourish you.
New skills help to keep your brain healthy. Sign up for a dance class or a creative writing workshop. Make music , write book , build software or anything. You’ll feel good about yourself .
Better yet , Master a new language.
The mental work it takes can slow the signs of aging and may even delay the effect of Alzheimer’s disease.
Many times we’re like the salesman , who failing to make the sale , report to the manager, ” Yes , but I sure convinced the customer he was wrong. ” In selling , the big objective is winning sales , not arguments.
In marriage the big objective is peace , happiness , tranquility -not winning quarrels or saying , “I could have told you so.”
Paraphrasing some military lingo , it is much better to lose a battle and win the war than to win a battle and lose the war.
Resolve to keep your eyes on the big ball.
Habits are either the best of servants or the worst of masters. We first make our habits and then our habits makes us. So , be quick , to break those habits that will break you and hasten to adopt those practice that will help you achieve success.
Speaking of opportunities, I’ve come across many people who were eager to get ahead as fast as they could.
I don’t intent on discrediting those who managed to do it on their own. But to those who did not manage, your opportunity will come.
Time and again, I’ve passed on many opportunities, some good and some I’m glad not taking.
However, sometimes they’d just flow back to you in its very odd fashion. Somehow it feel like, you’re destined to go on that very path that you missed out on sometimes ago.
Be patient, continue working on yourself.
Try and look at Yourself from outsiders perspective to get an objective opinion about you and what you need to change.
When you do this , you remove any bias or privileges you apply to yourself and understand what really needs to be done in order to make difference.
A Healthy difference can improve your life quality .
Keep people off-balance and in dark by never revealing the purpose behind your action.
If they have no clue what you are up to , they cannot prepare a defense. Guide them enough far down wrong path , envelop them in a enough smoke, and by the time they realize your intention , it will be too late.
Do not reveal what you have thought upon doing , but by wise council keep it secret being determined to carry it into execution.
Resource : The 48 laws of power.