Set Boundaries

Boundaries aren’t about trying to control others or make them change.

Boundaries are an important form of self care ; you set and enforce boundaries for your own well-being.

Boundaries allow you to prioritize yourself and not overcommit or sign-up for things you can’t or don’t want to do.

Boundaries are necessary in friends and family , for their healthy connection with us. Overcommit and being their every time for everything may lead you to end your friendship or relationship.

So prioritize your friendship and family connection and set boundaries and live healthy connection.

Life of Every Human

The life of every human is a diary in which he/she means to write one story , and write another ; and his humblest hour is when he/she compares the volume as it is with what he vowed to make it.

When there’s gap between who you are and who you intend to be , you are incongruent and unhappy. You’re torn , mentally exhausted , and regretful. You always slightly feel like a fraud to yourself , and probably to the people around you.

Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony. —Gandhi.

If you try to tackle everything wrong in your life , you’ll quickly burn out and quit. It’s happened many times before.

Learn Something New

New skills help to keep your brain healthy. Sign up for a dance class or a creative writing workshop. Make music , write book , build software or anything. You’ll feel good about yourself .

Better yet , Master a new language.

The mental work it takes can slow the signs of aging and may even delay the effect of Alzheimer’s disease.

January is Best Time to Re-Create Yourself

Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re- create yourself by forging a new identity , one that commands attention and never bores the audience.

Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define it for you.

Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions – your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.

Resource : The 48 laws of power.

Forgive Yourself

We can expect to have some regret and we shouldn’t feel bad about having them.

Journalist Kathryn Schulz.

Forgive yourself. Kicking yourself over past failures won’t change what happened , it will just leave you sore from being kicked so much.

Give up all hope for better past.

Own who you have been so it doesn’t own you.

The point isn’t to live without any regrets , the point is to not hate ourselves for having them.

We need to learn to love the flawed imperfect things that we create and to forgive ourselves for creating them.